"that they admonish the young women
to love their husbands..."
The first focus that we come to seems simple enough, 'love their husbands.' However, I know that there is a reason that it was included.
I went digging into the original Greek. I found out that the word love here is the Greek word philandros which literally means 'to be fond of.' It is written in a present tense, active voice and thus means that we are to be actively fond of our husbands on all occasions. source
Next step, define fond. Ooh, I love the way Merriam-Webster puts it: 'prize highly, having an affection or liking, foolishly tender.' I picture a young newly-wed girl who is still googly eyed over her man!
That is how I am supposed to look at my husband constantly! WAIT!!! What about when he forgets to take out the trash, or he just hurt my feelings!?!? These are instances where I have a very hard time liking my husband much less being 'foolishly tender' towards him. Yet, that is precisely what God has called us to do!
Remember back when the two of you first met. How incredible it felt when you were around him! How your heart skipped a beat when the phone rang and it was him! **SIGH** That is the feeling that we are to hold on to. Doesn't sound so simple anymore!
I sit here and ponder the early years of my marriage. I remember how thrilled I was to have a husband and to be taking care of him! I would not have complained if he missed the hamper. I would have joyfully picked-up after him. I longed for the moment that he got home from work so that I could talk to him. I soaked up every moment with him. Fast-forward 10 years, what is it like now?
Do I still joyfully do his laundry?
Do I still long for him to come home to actually spend time with him or to get a break from the kids?
Am I so lost in the digital world of Facebook, Pinterest, and the season premieres that I ignore the time that we have together after the children are asleep?
Do I still get butterflies when I kiss him?
If you are like me, the answers to these questions may be a bit embarrassing. In fact, I am not sure of the last time I truly felt 'foolishly tender' towards my man! God has blessed me with a remarkable husband. I am very guilty of allowing myself to get so wrapped up in life that I have let the little things disappear.
I know that it isn't necessarily going to always be easy. I understand that I will not always 'feel' like being fond of him. BUT from now on it is a choice that I will strive to make.
I pray that you will join me in this. Let's rekindle that fondness that we had in the beginning!
Father, please help us as we strive to be fond of our husbands. Help us to love them the way that you called us to. In Jesus Name, Amen
Join me next week as week learn about loving our children!