Friday, August 2, 2013

Becoming His Help Meet Week 1

Help Meet Week 1

Welcome Back! I am so glad that you are joining me as I share with you what I have learned about being my husband's help meet. If you missed last week, you can catch up here! This series is proving to be more difficult for me to write than I originally had expected it to be. I am having a hard time putting into words everything that I have learned. By the grace of God and through His direction, I am going to try and share with you all that I have learned because it has made such a difference in my marriage. Here goes...

I am going to start with the scripture that seems to make most women squirm, Ephesians 5:22-23 (NKJV)
"Wives, submit to your own husband,
as to the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife,
 as also Christ is the head
of the church; and He is the Savior of the body."

Now, I know a lot of ladies that say, 'but he doesn't deserve my respect...' I am pretty certain there isn't anything in this verse or any other verse that state that as a condition to this command. In fact, 1 Peter 3:1 says "Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands,
that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a 
word, myt be won over by the conduct of
their wives, when they observe your
chaste conduct accompanied by fear."

That means, even when our husbands aren't doing what they are called to, we should keep on respecting and submitting. That way they will be won over by our behavior, not our nagging! 

I know that these verses are hard. I struggled struggle with them daily, but I believe that God knows what He is doing. I believe that He created it this way on purpose. We just have to get the us out of the way! Before we can begin to dig any deeper in this study we must first get past our fear of these verses. We must accept that God knows what is best for us. He would never ask us to do something that wasn't for our good. I ask you to join me this week in praying that God will change your heart on these verses. That you and I would grow to love these verses knowing that God has something BIG planned in our marriages!

 Next week we will look at just what 'respect and submission' really look like!
Thank you for stopping by. 

Reminding Me He is in Charge

Wow, what an amazing Father I have! He has arranged things in my favor yet again! I have always been a worrier. I would search for things to worry about. So, when Daddy T came home saying that he got a job at the car dealership, you can bet my anxiety hit the roof! Then, as I shared here, God gently reminded me that He was in control. That this was an answer to our prayer.  Things should be great now, right?
That is how it should be, but it's not. Somewhere along the way, I lost focus. I forgot that God gave us this job and that He was going to work it all out. Instead, I was filled with worry and dread. I was constantly wondering if Daddy T was going to sell enough cars to make the bills that we had, not to mention groceries and diapers. I was making life miserable for myself, my children, and most of all for my husband. He was working so hard for our family, and rather than be an encouragement to him, I was complaining to him about the hours he was working.
Last week, I again picked up Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer. I began to read yet again about the attacks that Satan wages on our minds. Today, I got to the chapter on worrying. *SIGH*  I wanted to put the book down before I even finished the first page, by the time I got to the second page I knew that this was exactly what I needed to hear. Third page, I was laying the book down for a moment to cry out in repentance to God over my behavior.
As I finished the chapter, I resolved to keep a better check on my attitude. I know that the journey is not over. I am aware that it is a day-by-day, moment-by-moment of 'casting my cares,' but I also know that His grace is sufficient. I know that I can overcome the negativity and worrying! I will be joyful and thankful!

Thursday, August 1, 2013

Schedule Scraped and Revamped!

I have shared with you all how much I am not a scheduled person. I, also, shared with you how I spent time this year making a schedule to try to help with potential meltdowns and to keep us on track. I told you that I would try the said schedule for 2 weeks and then reevaluate... Well, we have made it one week and already I can tell you, it's not gonna work! We have stuck to it a total of 1 time! With Daddy T's crazy rotating schedule, it has proven very difficult. That being said, I am revamping a week early. This is just one of the reasons why I love homeschooling. I can rearrange things until they do fit us!

Earlier today, I was blog hopping and came across this!  Meghan Carver over at First Comes Love may have just saved my schedule dilemma. 

I have to honest, I have been feeling like a huge failure in this department. I have tried, but it just doesn't work for us and our lifestyle to have a rigid schedule. Meghan reminded me that there are other options out there that will work for us. I got right to work on making us a chart!

 I pulled out my stash of construction paper, markers, scissors, and velcro tabs (gotta put my touch on it)!  Here is a picture of the finished project. I am in love with the whole idea! I don't feel so weighed down. I am also putting together boxes with the chosen work in them for each day.

 When they finish with an assignment, they simply put a check by it!  I know that Brother Bear (D) will need a little more guidance in this, but that's ok with me. He will pick up on it rather quickly!  I think that Mr Popper (C) will love this system! I'll keep you updated.

I am still working on getting up earlier. Truth be told, I have been successful with this about half of the last week. I guess half is better that not at all! 

Wednesday, July 31, 2013

My Heart's Desire

Today, as I was driving Mr.Popper to his therapy appointment, the song 'If You Wanna Steal My Show' by Toby Mac came on the radio. I felt my spirit begin to churn in me! This is my heart's desire in all that I do. I felt a new sense of passion rise in me to be a better mom and wife and to make this place, where I spill my life out to you, all about Him! There, in my car, I began to sing this song as a prayer over every aspect of my life. I want God to always be in control. He should be at the wheel at all times, and when He chooses to change course, I want to be right there with Him!
Please, take a minute and listen to the words of this song. May they become your prayer today as well!

A New Journey

I have stumbled upon an unexpected journey. What started as an offer to help a friend, has now become a passion.  As I sit here realizing the vastness of a spur-of-the-moment decision I made this evening, I am getting excited! I can't wait to get started in this new ministry opportunity!

Let me back up a little and fill you in! I would love to start at the beginning, but that would take us back 5 years, and I'm not sure that we have time for that! Instead, I will first introduce you to my bestie, Heather Randall. Heather is a homeschooling mom of 4 kiddos. She is a published author (I sense a give away in the works), an artist (ooh, more give away opportunities), and CEO of CWA! Christian Women Affiliate (CWA) is a website dedicated to helping Christian women come together to support each other and to help each other grow in 'ministry, business, and personal life.'  She is a very talented lady! Anyway, we met 5 years ago when we were attending the same church. It was instant, I fell in love with this lady and prayed that we would become friends. God has answered that prayer. Though we haven't always talked every day, in fact we've went extended amounts of time without talking, I consider her my best friend!

About now you are probably wondering what that has to do with you, right!?! Well, as you can see from above, Heather has quite a full plate. This evening while we were talking, I once again offered to help her in anyway possible. She once again side stepped the offer with another of her common excuses as to why it wouldn't be right for her to let me help, blah blah blah! I wasn't about to give up this time! I know how important it is for women to support each other and that is exactly what CWA is all about! I also know that Heather could use my help! So, I continued to ask questions and push. Eventually, I talked her into it!

I am going to helping out over at CWA Radio!  I am thrilled! I love the idea of supporting other Christian women!
I have embedded a CWA Radio feed on my page. You can listen from here or head on over to CWA and check it out! There are plenty of other services that they offer. We are Christian women helping one another! Feel free to join us!

Say Cheese

A contagious smile courtesy of Sister!

Monday, July 29, 2013

Introducing: Tuesday Tidbits

A few months ago I was reading through random blogs. I came across one that used the words help meet when referring to a wife's roll with her husband. I shrugged it off. It's not like I had never heard this term before, I was raised in church. Therefore, it didn't really catch my attention, until later that day. During my quite time, and the words 'help meet' just kept coming to my mind. So, I did what any educated girl would do, I Googled it! I was shocked at what I found. Finding an actual definition proved challenging! Most said simply, helpmate.I wasn't satisfied with that generic of an answer so, I began to dig, and soon I realized it was so much more!

My first stop was a blog, Peaceful Wife. Here, I found a lady quite like myself. She and her husband were both Christians. They were both raised in the church. She was a domineering wife with a passive husband. She felt that she was being the good Christian wife that she needed to be. Wow, I felt as though I was reading my life story. That explains Daddy T and I in detail! We didn't have a bad marriage. In fact, compared to most other marriages that I saw, we were happy! I felt blessed! I was married to my best friend and I actually enjoyed spending time with him. However, I had this feeling that there was something more. Boy, was I right!

I never realized just how backwards our marriage really was compared to God's design for marriage. I was the one who made all the decisions, I managed our finances, I disciplined our children, IIIII! He didn't seem to mind. He might have in the beginning of our marriage, but that was 10 years ago. If there was any objection, it was long gone now!
Thus, began a journey into realms of the unknown and rarely taught. The things I discovered about marriage in the next few months were shocking, exciting, and incredibly humbling! Please join me every Tuesday for the next month as I share my journey with you! I feel that God is calling women and men back into their biblical roles regarding family and marriage. Trust me the results are phenomenal!

Open and Honest

When I first start blogging, I was excited! I love sharing all the cute things that were going on in our home. I am beginning to realize that, if I am actually going to make a connection with other people, I am going to have to be more transparent. That is a very scary thought to me. It's more fun to write about the fun day at school and just omit the meltdown that happened during our spelling lesson. I don't like sharing the negative parts of the day, but I know that in order for you to get encouragement, you need to know that I am human, just like you! That I struggle to get out of bed in the morning, that my sink is usually full of dirty dishes, and that 3 out of 5 days I am usually still in pajamas until 30 minutes before my husband walks through the door. You need to know that there are days that I hide in the bathroom and cry to God because I feel like a complete failure. It's completely normal. I don't know a single mom that doesn't! (PS if you don't, please don't tell me :) We are all human.

 And as wives and moms, I believe we have one of the greatest callings! We are shaping young lives everyday! We maintain a home for our family. We just need to remember that we too need time. We need to be 'filled up.' Just like a car can't run without gas in the tank, neither can we. So, take some time today, Momma. Reach for your favorite book, spend an extra minute on getting dressed, sneak that piece of chocolate that you have hidden in the closet! ;) We all need those extra little moments to keep us sane! Most of all, remember to spend time with the Father today! He is the true source of strength! Without Him, I would never make it through these crazy days!
And always remember, 'this too shall pass..."

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