Friday, August 2, 2013

Becoming His Help Meet Week 1

Help Meet Week 1

Welcome Back! I am so glad that you are joining me as I share with you what I have learned about being my husband's help meet. If you missed last week, you can catch up here! This series is proving to be more difficult for me to write than I originally had expected it to be. I am having a hard time putting into words everything that I have learned. By the grace of God and through His direction, I am going to try and share with you all that I have learned because it has made such a difference in my marriage. Here goes...

I am going to start with the scripture that seems to make most women squirm, Ephesians 5:22-23 (NKJV)
"Wives, submit to your own husband,
as to the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife,
 as also Christ is the head
of the church; and He is the Savior of the body."

Now, I know a lot of ladies that say, 'but he doesn't deserve my respect...' I am pretty certain there isn't anything in this verse or any other verse that state that as a condition to this command. In fact, 1 Peter 3:1 says "Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands,
that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a 
word, myt be won over by the conduct of
their wives, when they observe your
chaste conduct accompanied by fear."

That means, even when our husbands aren't doing what they are called to, we should keep on respecting and submitting. That way they will be won over by our behavior, not our nagging! 

I know that these verses are hard. I struggled struggle with them daily, but I believe that God knows what He is doing. I believe that He created it this way on purpose. We just have to get the us out of the way! Before we can begin to dig any deeper in this study we must first get past our fear of these verses. We must accept that God knows what is best for us. He would never ask us to do something that wasn't for our good. I ask you to join me this week in praying that God will change your heart on these verses. That you and I would grow to love these verses knowing that God has something BIG planned in our marriages!

 Next week we will look at just what 'respect and submission' really look like!
Thank you for stopping by. 


  1. Definitely not easy! Especially when you're married to an easygoing, doesn't really guide you kind of husband... It's hard to know how to be submissive when he hardly ever tells you what he wants or doesn't want, likes or doesn't like. I love him, but it's hard to follow someone who won't lead!

    1. I understand! I too am married to a laid back guy. I am going to cover this very thing in the next couple of weeks. This was a major part of my journey as well. Thank you so much for stopping by!

  2. Hi, I am visiting for the first time from Missional Women's Friday and I am glad I came by on such a topic as this.
    EEEUUUUWWWW! This has been a hard one, especially twenty years ago when I got married to this fine Christian man after 13 years of being divorced. We were 45. He had never been married. So here comes this new and first wife who doesn't like the word "submission" scared me to pieces. But I wanted to do the right thing. So I dove into the Bible and studies that dealt with submission and began to learn how I could do this and not be afraid. I have been so very blessed once I let go of those fears. I gladly am obedient because I care and love this man so much. Plus, being obedient is not about kowtowing with fear. It is being under the umbrella of a godly man because he, my husband, is obedient to Christ himself, under His umbrella and being submissive to Him. It makes it a welcome decision for me ... NOW! : )
    Thank you for sharing and reminding me of the journey that I am always one!
    Caring through Christ, ~ linda

    1. Thank you for stopping by and for your comment. It's nice to know that we are not alone in the struggle that we sometimes have in this area! For me, it is an everyday choice I have to make. Bless you!

  3. You know, it's really rare to hear this subject addressed, even in Christian circles. It is so essential to teach our young women that this is a FREEING choice, not a binding one. When I submit, I come under my husband's authority and his accountability to God, and that is such a precious privilege! Not to say that I never struggle in this area, but I am thankful to have been taught this concept from an early age. I am looking forward to hearing from the wife of a laid-back guy, since my husband is more of a strong leader. Kudos to you for being brave enough to tackle this topic!

    1. It really is a freeing choice. I go over this very thing in week 3! I love how much healthier my marriage is now! Thank you so much for stopping by! Bless you! husband isn't as laid back as he used to be! It's amazing what me trusting in him has done for his self-esteem and personality!